I think it’s pretty safe to assume that we’ve all been unhappy with our lives at some point or other. I know I’ve certainly had my moments. And if you’re reading this blog, chances are you’re at one of those points now. So what do you do about it?
For me, the time for that decision came when I turned 30. Quite frankly, I took turning 30 hard. Up until that point, my life had been a series of ups and downs. While I had some high points, such as getting married, buying a house, starting a business, I was nowhere near where I wanted to be. I had thought things would be on “the right track” by the time I turned 30. I had thought my career would be established, that I would have at least one child, that I would be happy. But guess what? My business had failed, I was in a job I didn’t like, we had yet to conceive our first child, and I was kind of miserable.
The question was: what was I going to do about it? I could float along, unclear in my goals, wallowing in self-pity, or I could take a deep breath, fortify myself, and take charge.
I decided to take charge.
And that’s where I am now. I took charge of my life, and while I wouldn’t say things are perfect, they’re a heck of a lot closer than they were. I’m establishing a career (writing), I’ve started a family (two kids!), and I have a clearer picture of where I want to go in my life.
That’s why I decided to start this blog: so I could talk about my journey and hopefully inspire others to take control of their own lives.
I think everyone has the ability to be happy. It just comes down to choices: the choices you make, and the choices you don’t make. Life is filled with choices, and times like these are no different. Times like these, you have even more choices to make, even more important decisions to take on.
Every single minute of every single day, we make choices. And the big ones, the ones that get us to take action or decide not to, the ones that involve where we live, what we do, who we spend time with, can determine if we’ll be happy or not. Are you going to just ride it out and hope for things to get better? Or are you going to grab the bull by the horns and take charge of your life? The decision is yours — but what you decide will likely determine the course of the rest of your life. Isn’t it worth it to think about those choices and make the ones that will have the greatest impact on the long-term?
It can be scary. I’m not going to say things have been easy, or that they will be easy. But it’s exhilarating to think that I can actually control how my life will turn out. Rather than sit on the sidelines as a victim, I can be the heroine of my own life. I can be whoever I want to be. I can do whatever I want to do (within reason!). And I can make a difference in the lives of others.
So who’s with me?