It wasn’t easy to be so discouraged and miserable with my life. It wasn’t a good feeling. But perhaps the hardest part for me was figuring out why I was at the point I was at. I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. So why was I stuck in such a rut? Why had I, in my opinion, failed at so many things? What could possibly be the reason?
Reasoning It Out
In my own circumstances, I can find countless “reasons” why things happened. Why didn’t I get that job? Because if I had, I wouldn’t be able to be a work at home mom like I really wanted to be. Why did that relationship fail? Because I wouldn’t have found my husband otherwise. Why did it take so long for us to conceive? Because while I really, really wanted it, I wasn’t at the right point in my life until now. Why did my gift basket business fail? Because I would grow bored with it. And yet having that business taught me skills I would need in my writing business.
The more I think about it, the more the “plan” starts to make sense. Whether or not you believe in a divine being, if you really sit down and think about it, you can probably come up with reasons why each experience you’ve had has benefited you. Each experience has shaped who you are today, and to say that those experiences didn’t matter for anything would be to say that your life thus far has been meaningless. To put it bluntly, that’s just not true.
As difficult, as painful, as some experiences have been, they’ve taught you things you needed to know about yourself, about what you want and need, and about the people and world around you. By accepting and acknowledging the effect that those experiences have had, you can start to appreciate the “bad” stuff in your life and use what you’ve learned to turn your life around and make it what you want it to be.
So Fate Will Take Care of Me, Right?
Well, maybe. But even if there’s a reason for everything, that doesn’t mean that we should necessarily assume that life will take care of itself. Sitting back and expecting “what’s meant to be will be” isn’t a realistic path. Think about it. If the experiences you’ve had thus far have brought you to the point where you’re questioning what you want to do, who you want to be, then that’s what you’re supposed to do. Meaning, you’re supposed to take action now, not just sit and wait. If you were meant to sit and wait, you wouldn’t be so disgruntled and frustrated now. There’s a reason you’re feeling the way you’re feeling, just like there was a reason I was feeling the way I was feeling. It was the push that got me going, the motivation to do something about my life instead of just watch it go by.
The choice is yours. It always is. But will sitting back and watching your life pass you by make you any happier?